Habit #5 Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
When we listen with the intend to understand others, rather than with the intent to reply , we begin true communication and relationship building. When others feel understood first, they feel affirmed and valued, defenses are lowered, and opportunities to speak openly and to be understood come much more naturally and easily. Seeking to understand takes kindness; seeking to be undestood takes courage. Effectivenesss lies in balancing the two.
Habit #6 Synergize
Synergy is about producing a third alternative - not my way, not your way, but a third way that is better than either of us would come up with individually. It's the fruit of mutual respect - of understanding and even celebrating one another's differences in solving problems, seizing opportunities. Synergistic teams and families thrive on individual strengths so that the whole becomes greater than the sum of the parts. Such relationships and teams renounce defensive adversarialism (1 + 1 = 1/2). They dont' settle on compromise (1 + 1 = 1 1/2) or merely co-operation (1 + 1 = 2). They go for creative cooperation (1 + 1 = 3 or more).
Both of these habits are also what the book considers as interdependence. These habits when used will allow an individual to seek public victory. From my personal experience, I do have Habit 5 and sometimes Habit 6 for friends. These two habits makes every group situation that much easier to deal. Especially for Habit 5, when you need to explain your point across to someone else.
Friday, March 03, 2006
Living Habits #3 and #4
Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
All things are created twice - first mentally, second physically. Individuals, families, teams, and organizations shape their own future by creating a mental vision and purpose for any project. They don't just live day to day without a clear purpose in mind. They mentally identify and commit themselves to the principles, values, relationships, and purposes that matter most to them. A mission statement is the highest form of mental creation for an individual, a family , or an organization. It is the primary decision because it governs all other decisions. Creating a culture behind a shared mission, vision, and values is the essence of leadership.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Thinking win-win is a frame of mind and heart that seeks mutual benefit and is based on mutual respect in all interactions. It's about thining in terms of abundance - an ever-expanding "pie," a cornucopia of opportunity, wealth, and resources - rather than a scarcity and adversarial competition. It's not thinking selfishly (win-lose) or like a martyr (lose-win). In our work and family life, members think interdependently - in terms of "we", not "me." Thinking win-win encourages conflict resolution and helps individuals seek mutually beneficial solutions. It's sharing information, power, recognition, and rewards.
According to the book, the first three habits, the two presented yesterday and habit #3 will allow the individual to achieve private victory. Habit #4 allows the said inidividual to achieve public victory. Those are all interesting habits to get but I am still trying to put the first 2 to use.
I know a lot of you might consider reading this type of book a waste of time and whatever "they" say is good but so hard to do. Any self help book is a "hype" that might only serve as an inspiration for a short time, but later on, you will eventually lose the inspiration. I agree to a certain extend along these kind of thoughts, however, I also believe that what a person make do with knowledge will greatly vary the results. What I do with it is, first learn it, recite it in your heart, take out the part that you feel is best for you, write it out, apply the theory in small situation, review it once a month and after a few months of years, you will find that your mind will slowly think along those terms. Food for thought for today. :)
All things are created twice - first mentally, second physically. Individuals, families, teams, and organizations shape their own future by creating a mental vision and purpose for any project. They don't just live day to day without a clear purpose in mind. They mentally identify and commit themselves to the principles, values, relationships, and purposes that matter most to them. A mission statement is the highest form of mental creation for an individual, a family , or an organization. It is the primary decision because it governs all other decisions. Creating a culture behind a shared mission, vision, and values is the essence of leadership.
Habit 4: Think Win-Win
Thinking win-win is a frame of mind and heart that seeks mutual benefit and is based on mutual respect in all interactions. It's about thining in terms of abundance - an ever-expanding "pie," a cornucopia of opportunity, wealth, and resources - rather than a scarcity and adversarial competition. It's not thinking selfishly (win-lose) or like a martyr (lose-win). In our work and family life, members think interdependently - in terms of "we", not "me." Thinking win-win encourages conflict resolution and helps individuals seek mutually beneficial solutions. It's sharing information, power, recognition, and rewards.
According to the book, the first three habits, the two presented yesterday and habit #3 will allow the individual to achieve private victory. Habit #4 allows the said inidividual to achieve public victory. Those are all interesting habits to get but I am still trying to put the first 2 to use.
I know a lot of you might consider reading this type of book a waste of time and whatever "they" say is good but so hard to do. Any self help book is a "hype" that might only serve as an inspiration for a short time, but later on, you will eventually lose the inspiration. I agree to a certain extend along these kind of thoughts, however, I also believe that what a person make do with knowledge will greatly vary the results. What I do with it is, first learn it, recite it in your heart, take out the part that you feel is best for you, write it out, apply the theory in small situation, review it once a month and after a few months of years, you will find that your mind will slowly think along those terms. Food for thought for today. :)
Living Habits: #1 and #2
Recently, as I was wandering the many shelves of my small local branch library and imagining to embrace the vast amount of knowledge held within each book, I came across the psychology section where a catchy yellow wrapping caught my eye. A closer look revealed the title to be "Living the 7 Habits" which immediately made me recall the title "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People". I have no memory where I had encountered that book before but it was one of those books which I had labeled as a book which I will read later when I have time. I picked up the book and found not to my surprise that it is by the same author. It is the habits from this book that I want to write about.
The book that I had picked up is a book of short stories containing the testimonials of people who had applied the principals of "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" to their everyday challenges. The 7 Habits are also summarized in the book cover of the book and today I will like to share with all of you two of them. Although, these 7 habits are not "new discoveries" and most of us may have had similar ideas about developing these every habits too, but from my experience, we need to be shown how important these habits are before we realize how important they are. How these, seemingly unimportant habits can make us more effective or "become highly effective people".
The first habit for me to personally learn is
"Habit 3: Put First Things First".
Putting first things first is the second or physical creation. It is organizing and executing around the mental creation ( your purpose, vision, values, and most important priorities). Second things do not come first. First things do not come second. Individuals and organizations focus on what matters most, urgent or not. The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
and the second for me is
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Being proactive is more than taking initiative. It is accepting responsibility for our own behavior (past, present, and future) and making choices based on principles and values rather than on moods or circumstances. Proactive people are agents of change and choose not to be victims, to be reactive, or to blame others. They do this by developing and using four unique human gifts - self-awareness, conscience, imagination, and independent will - and by taking an INside-Out Approach to creating change. They resolve to be the creative force in their own lives, which is the most fundamental decision anyone ever makes.
I hope these help you, my friends, in some way. I will put up other habits later on as I find time to go through them myself. :)
I hope this post is not too long.
The book that I had picked up is a book of short stories containing the testimonials of people who had applied the principals of "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" to their everyday challenges. The 7 Habits are also summarized in the book cover of the book and today I will like to share with all of you two of them. Although, these 7 habits are not "new discoveries" and most of us may have had similar ideas about developing these every habits too, but from my experience, we need to be shown how important these habits are before we realize how important they are. How these, seemingly unimportant habits can make us more effective or "become highly effective people".
The first habit for me to personally learn is
"Habit 3: Put First Things First".
Putting first things first is the second or physical creation. It is organizing and executing around the mental creation ( your purpose, vision, values, and most important priorities). Second things do not come first. First things do not come second. Individuals and organizations focus on what matters most, urgent or not. The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
and the second for me is
Habit 1: Be Proactive
Being proactive is more than taking initiative. It is accepting responsibility for our own behavior (past, present, and future) and making choices based on principles and values rather than on moods or circumstances. Proactive people are agents of change and choose not to be victims, to be reactive, or to blame others. They do this by developing and using four unique human gifts - self-awareness, conscience, imagination, and independent will - and by taking an INside-Out Approach to creating change. They resolve to be the creative force in their own lives, which is the most fundamental decision anyone ever makes.
I hope these help you, my friends, in some way. I will put up other habits later on as I find time to go through them myself. :)
I hope this post is not too long.
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
Frustration
Do you ever feel frustrated to a point where you could not find release? It is not the lack of friends to vent your anger with but what if the very thing that you are frustrated about has to do with them? What if the frustration is a secret desire, a vile purely selfish desire where sharing such a thought or desire will make your friend think less of you? Or what if the thought or desire is something that you want to keep silent to all your friends? Something that you did not want to share with your friends?
I didn't have such sinister desires or such secret thoughts. However, I do feel frustrated on myself and what my friend did. Yesterday night, I eagerly wanted to get to know a friend that one of my best friend introduced to me. My best friend sparked enough interest for me to seriously consider her. Being too emotionally undiscipline, my desire of wanting to know more about her revealed too much of my true intention and therefore causing the opposite effect. She became cautious and also created the situation where I have become her wimp. I have given the control of the relationship to her instead of holding on to some of my thoughts. With my many different dealings with the gender of the opposite sex, I have found that being mysterious in certain things and only hinting wants are the most effective route. To create interest without the other knowing is the best route to go.
In future dealings with her and other people, I will have to be cautious. I have to show interest but at the same time remain mysterious to create interest in the other.
I didn't have such sinister desires or such secret thoughts. However, I do feel frustrated on myself and what my friend did. Yesterday night, I eagerly wanted to get to know a friend that one of my best friend introduced to me. My best friend sparked enough interest for me to seriously consider her. Being too emotionally undiscipline, my desire of wanting to know more about her revealed too much of my true intention and therefore causing the opposite effect. She became cautious and also created the situation where I have become her wimp. I have given the control of the relationship to her instead of holding on to some of my thoughts. With my many different dealings with the gender of the opposite sex, I have found that being mysterious in certain things and only hinting wants are the most effective route. To create interest without the other knowing is the best route to go.
In future dealings with her and other people, I will have to be cautious. I have to show interest but at the same time remain mysterious to create interest in the other.
Sickness
For most of last week, I was struck down by sickness and not wanting to infect anybody else at work, I chose to stay away from everyone. Looking at all the symtons, I self-diagnosted myself to have the stomach flu and at its height, I was seating in the washroom all morning and was suffering from dehydration. I didn't see the doctor because my doctor is of a peculiar sort where he believes that letting the body heal itself with no help from outside medicine is the best solution. For a simple stomach flu, he would have just told me to get the medicine which I have taken and that would be it. He would then say if anything worst happens, come back and see me. So I didn't see any point in dragging my weak legs out of my house and driving all the way to see him.
After recovering and reflecting back on my sickness, I was once again reminded at how fragile our body is. Perhaps it is not that our body is weaker, maybe it is due to the virus and bacteria being stronger. Or perhaps it is the way we exploit our mother nature, destroying the very place we live in that makes our body more susceptiable to sickness. I do not know the true cause of this. However, what I do know is my friend from Shanghai has be sick for 3 months and he tells me that even his whole family is sick for almost as long.
So to everyone out there, please take care of yourself. Health is the greatest wealth that we can ever have.
After recovering and reflecting back on my sickness, I was once again reminded at how fragile our body is. Perhaps it is not that our body is weaker, maybe it is due to the virus and bacteria being stronger. Or perhaps it is the way we exploit our mother nature, destroying the very place we live in that makes our body more susceptiable to sickness. I do not know the true cause of this. However, what I do know is my friend from Shanghai has be sick for 3 months and he tells me that even his whole family is sick for almost as long.
So to everyone out there, please take care of yourself. Health is the greatest wealth that we can ever have.
Time goes by too quickly
Do any of you feel that time just passes by very quickly? There never seem to have enough time for everything that a person wanted to do. It seems that between sleep, work, friends, family and hobbies, you can only do so much. I wish I had that magic clock that Hermione Granger in Harry Potter has or any time stopping device that will allow me to have more time. I am not asking for much but maybe just for 1 hour every day to just give me enough time to think things though for the day before starting time again. Or just 30 minutes extra for me to write this blog everyday will be nice.
However, life is nothing like that. It is all real time. Every second or minute or hour you don't use or take advanatage of, it will be gone forever. There is no way to pause like a DVD player and rewind. Go back and use the hour again.
Ending on this note, to all the friends that I might have neglected, please forgive me. I can only do so much. :)
However, life is nothing like that. It is all real time. Every second or minute or hour you don't use or take advanatage of, it will be gone forever. There is no way to pause like a DVD player and rewind. Go back and use the hour again.
Ending on this note, to all the friends that I might have neglected, please forgive me. I can only do so much. :)
The Dish always taste better on another Table
The dish always taste better on another Table? Or another person's something always seems better? Or there are any number of manner in which to illustrate the same idea. This human tendency to want what other people want is inevitably inherited from our ancestry. Just that some people has more of this tendency than others.
I am writing about this because lately, I have been reminded how some of us and myself included have this urge to think like that. I am reminded of a story that was sent to me by one of my friend.
An Angel was sent to earth to fullfill wishes for people. One time, the angel encounted a rich man with a beautiful wife who lives in a big house with lots of friends. The angel looked at this man and thought for a moment, the angel then with a wave of her magic took away everything the man ever had and left. The man after losing everything became very sad. After two weeks, the angel came back and gave everything back to him. The man then became very happy for the rest of his life and thanked the angel.
This story may sound stupid to some of you but it is an important story to keep in mind. Whenever, you believe that what other people have is better than what you have, think about this story and you won't feel this way anymore.
Just some food for thought :) Learn to appriciate what you have and not what others have. Be content with yourself and live happily. Jealousy is the root of many evils!!
I am writing about this because lately, I have been reminded how some of us and myself included have this urge to think like that. I am reminded of a story that was sent to me by one of my friend.
An Angel was sent to earth to fullfill wishes for people. One time, the angel encounted a rich man with a beautiful wife who lives in a big house with lots of friends. The angel looked at this man and thought for a moment, the angel then with a wave of her magic took away everything the man ever had and left. The man after losing everything became very sad. After two weeks, the angel came back and gave everything back to him. The man then became very happy for the rest of his life and thanked the angel.
This story may sound stupid to some of you but it is an important story to keep in mind. Whenever, you believe that what other people have is better than what you have, think about this story and you won't feel this way anymore.
Just some food for thought :) Learn to appriciate what you have and not what others have. Be content with yourself and live happily. Jealousy is the root of many evils!!
An Inspiration
An inspiration about human relationships (any type) came to me today and to summarize I came up with this:
Those who find fault in others should first find fault in themselves. What do you think?
Please Comment. :)
Those who find fault in others should first find fault in themselves. What do you think?
Please Comment. :)
Monday, January 30, 2006
HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR
HAPPY NEW YEAR. Eat lots and get a lot of red pocket money :) :).
KUNG HEI FAT CHOI!! meaning, Wish you will make lots of money too.
To those who wonder what I did, I was just sitting at home resting. I didn't even bother going out since all the malls are jammed packed. Yes Yes, I am lazy. Well, I didn't stay at home exactly. On Sunday Morning, New Year's Day, I went to my friend's house to watch tennis. I mean really early morning :) from 12:30am to 4am. It was an exciting match. Just as we all thought Federer might lose to the young gun Marcos Baghdatis in the second set, Federer suddenly brings his game to the next level. The level of the untouched. The commentors says," Everyone else plays on earth but Federer plays in another planet!!" It seems Federer was holding back in the beginning and letting Baghdatis gain confidence. Then he suddenly switched from defending to attacking. All of a sudden, the tie changed and Federer changed his playing style to net play. After that, Baghdatis appears to be on the run all the time, until in the 3rd set, he actually have a bad leg calf cram. Then, me and my friend knows it is over. It is close to impossible to beat Federer when you are in perfect shape and when you are injuried, it was over.
You have to play tennis to understand how good Federer is. His form, his motion, his flexibility in the shoulder and even his reflexes makes him the perfect tennis player.
KUNG HEI FAT CHOI!! meaning, Wish you will make lots of money too.
To those who wonder what I did, I was just sitting at home resting. I didn't even bother going out since all the malls are jammed packed. Yes Yes, I am lazy. Well, I didn't stay at home exactly. On Sunday Morning, New Year's Day, I went to my friend's house to watch tennis. I mean really early morning :) from 12:30am to 4am. It was an exciting match. Just as we all thought Federer might lose to the young gun Marcos Baghdatis in the second set, Federer suddenly brings his game to the next level. The level of the untouched. The commentors says," Everyone else plays on earth but Federer plays in another planet!!" It seems Federer was holding back in the beginning and letting Baghdatis gain confidence. Then he suddenly switched from defending to attacking. All of a sudden, the tie changed and Federer changed his playing style to net play. After that, Baghdatis appears to be on the run all the time, until in the 3rd set, he actually have a bad leg calf cram. Then, me and my friend knows it is over. It is close to impossible to beat Federer when you are in perfect shape and when you are injuried, it was over.
You have to play tennis to understand how good Federer is. His form, his motion, his flexibility in the shoulder and even his reflexes makes him the perfect tennis player.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
Divide & Conquer and Step by Step Approach
Today I like to remind all of you what I had reminded myself over this weekend. The divide & conquer strategy and the step by step approach. As our everyday life becomes more and more complex and your time is split between so many different things like family, friends, work, hobbies, girl/boyfriends and any other thing you deem important. It is easy to get overwhelmed with the number of things to do. Using these two theories that many of you I am sure learned at school or heard of it before from somewhere, one can divide each task to many different parts. Then using the step by step approach, solve each task in due course.
Be "patient" and everything will be done. Although more will be piled on top of your head but as long as you can divide and conquer, anything is possible.
Be "patient" and everything will be done. Although more will be piled on top of your head but as long as you can divide and conquer, anything is possible.
Tennis Australian Open
Australian open men's semi-finals tonight. Roger Federer vs Nicolas Kiefer. And Women's doubles finals. Can you believe it? Remember a few years ago, China won the olympic gold for women's doubles? Those two are back!! Zi Yan and Jie Zheng and in the finals against the world's Number 1 seats. For those of my friends who play tennis, don't miss it. :)
However, it is sad now a days in the tennis world where not a lot of people pick up tennis as their sports anymore. Back in the 90s when I started playing tennis, there are still a lot of people playing. People say that it is because of the lighter racquet. All the skills and techniques necessary to hit the ball correctly are gone. You can just wack the ball anyway you like and you can hit it back. Other people say that there are just too much other entertainment that tennis which requires a lot of time and discipline to master doesn't hold a interest in the younger generation.
But tennis to me is like a discipline and culture. To be able to anticipate your oppnent and control them just the way you want is very difficult. It is like a game of strategy where developing new shots adds to your advantage. It is a little bit like martial arts. Where everyday practice is necessary. And your fighting arena is in the courts. The difference is that for martial arts, you really have to fight with someone to practice. However, for tennis, everything is left at the courts.
And while playing tennis, you can actually find out a lot about your opponent. What kind of person he or she is? Does he or she have patience? Does he or she have the discipline? Does he/she have fast-thinking? Is he or she a strategist? All these are reflective of the actual person's personality. :)
However, it is sad now a days in the tennis world where not a lot of people pick up tennis as their sports anymore. Back in the 90s when I started playing tennis, there are still a lot of people playing. People say that it is because of the lighter racquet. All the skills and techniques necessary to hit the ball correctly are gone. You can just wack the ball anyway you like and you can hit it back. Other people say that there are just too much other entertainment that tennis which requires a lot of time and discipline to master doesn't hold a interest in the younger generation.
But tennis to me is like a discipline and culture. To be able to anticipate your oppnent and control them just the way you want is very difficult. It is like a game of strategy where developing new shots adds to your advantage. It is a little bit like martial arts. Where everyday practice is necessary. And your fighting arena is in the courts. The difference is that for martial arts, you really have to fight with someone to practice. However, for tennis, everything is left at the courts.
And while playing tennis, you can actually find out a lot about your opponent. What kind of person he or she is? Does he or she have patience? Does he or she have the discipline? Does he/she have fast-thinking? Is he or she a strategist? All these are reflective of the actual person's personality. :)
Excerpt from a show that I am watching (Facing Dilemmas and adversity)
"We live in a world full of dilemmas and what do we do when we are faced with one? Shall we allow them to control us or shall we direct our own destiny?
There is no right or wong, good or bad answers. As long as we are like an old scarred tree and we take charge of our fate and direction even under dire conditions, we can still live a good life. "
A live with no regret. A live that we ourselves chose instead of being dictated by society.
There is no right or wong, good or bad answers. As long as we are like an old scarred tree and we take charge of our fate and direction even under dire conditions, we can still live a good life. "
A live with no regret. A live that we ourselves chose instead of being dictated by society.
Hayley Westenra sings like an angel
I don't listen to songs often and I don't know anything about music. However, you have to listen to this artist voice!! Even to my half deaf, untrained ears her voice sounds like an angel. I don't know much about singing but I think that her natural voice sounds like this.
According to my friend, even the retired beattles producer came out of retirement and help produced a record for her.
According to my friend, even the retired beattles producer came out of retirement and help produced a record for her.
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
Host being responsible for guests drinking and driving?????
As i was driving to work today i heard something very funny on the news. Hosts are being sued for their guest drinking and driving?
Although i agree that host should take care of their guest but being sued over something that you have no control over?? All I can say is that everyone is ultimately responsible for their own actions. No one should blame others what has happened to them.
Although i agree that host should take care of their guest but being sued over something that you have no control over?? All I can say is that everyone is ultimately responsible for their own actions. No one should blame others what has happened to them.
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Driving Habits Reflects upon our personality??
As I was driving to work today, I got cut off by a truck turning right. Not only did he turn right but he stopped and parked his truck on the side of the road. Even though it is his right to do so but couldn't he have the common courtesy to wait until the road is clear of cars before parking his truck in the middle of the road blocking me and everyone else behind me?
This incident makes me think about how our driving habits reflects upon our character. If you are a courteous person, when you drive, you will always be courteous of others. If you are a crazy driver, then you will be running through life being a bit crazy too. If you are in a bad mood that day then your driving habits will turn into worst than normal.
While driving, all your moods are presented there for everyone else to see. I believe it is because when you are sitting inside a car, you feel like you are alone on the road. Everyone else on the road are people that you won't know. This unconscious thinking unmasks everyone's true self.
This incident makes me think about how our driving habits reflects upon our character. If you are a courteous person, when you drive, you will always be courteous of others. If you are a crazy driver, then you will be running through life being a bit crazy too. If you are in a bad mood that day then your driving habits will turn into worst than normal.
While driving, all your moods are presented there for everyone else to see. I believe it is because when you are sitting inside a car, you feel like you are alone on the road. Everyone else on the road are people that you won't know. This unconscious thinking unmasks everyone's true self.
Tuesday, January 10, 2006
The Greatest Struggle
What is the greatest struggle in life? I will bet that if you asked a 100 people, there will be 100 different answers to this question. There are no right or wrong answers, everybody leads a different life and everybody stuggles against something differently. And the answer for any single person will change over time.
Yet there is one struggle that is constant. One struggle that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. One struggle that one will never always win against. Even the greatest of minds cannot win against it. And that is the struggle with oneself. Now you might ask what do I actually mean? What I mean is that the struggle one have to whether to do a certain thing? Whether to forgive? Whether to change? Whether to eat more or eat less? Even whether to write a blog? In other words, the struggle of making decisions in ones life.
I can safely say that not one single person can overcome this struggle in their life. So is this, the greatest struggle in life? I will like to throw this questions to any readers out there? What do you think is the greatest struggle in your life?
Yet there is one struggle that is constant. One struggle that you will have to deal with for the rest of your life. One struggle that one will never always win against. Even the greatest of minds cannot win against it. And that is the struggle with oneself. Now you might ask what do I actually mean? What I mean is that the struggle one have to whether to do a certain thing? Whether to forgive? Whether to change? Whether to eat more or eat less? Even whether to write a blog? In other words, the struggle of making decisions in ones life.
I can safely say that not one single person can overcome this struggle in their life. So is this, the greatest struggle in life? I will like to throw this questions to any readers out there? What do you think is the greatest struggle in your life?
Monday, January 09, 2006
My First Post
My very first post. A few years ago when i first read a blog, i thought to myself, what a waste of time? Only people who are net addicts posts stuff online. So what am i doing now? :)
The thought of writing my own blog online was first inspired by my friend who created his own website to post his pictures and about himself. After visiting his website about once a week and reading his very day journal entries, i find myself drawn into his thinkings and thoughts. I thought that maybe i should write one myself. However, i was a bit hesitant. What if a stranger wants to take advantage of me and through my postings, he/she will gain an edge over me. What if this, what if that.
Yet today, as i was getting frustrated at work and i was looking for someone to chat with online, i didnt' find anyone, but instead i found little stars beside some of my friend's name. I was puzzled at first but then i remembered what they were. They were new posts by my friends online and i remembered most of them are pictures. I clicked on a few of them and they contain pictures of trips and other events. And for one of my closer friend since 1st year university, i found out that she has been posting since december 2004. I was surprised to say the least due to what i understood of her. I only saw a few postings and i was saying to myself, okay that's it, no more this and no more that. Just do it. Sometimes, too much consideration is very bad.
So for my very post i will like to share something that i have asked one of my friend:
1) Life is full of contradictions and uncertainities. We can only hope that the path we are now walking is a path that we won't regret later on in life.
2) Life is full of surprises and amusement. As long as we work hard and always try our best, there i nothing to fear or regret about. The only regret might be whether if we had fun or not doing it.
3) Life is about accomplishing your goals. The goals in our life should be set very high so that we can continuously strive to better ourselves.
Which one of these are u? Think about it. There is no answer, just thoughts.
The thought of writing my own blog online was first inspired by my friend who created his own website to post his pictures and about himself. After visiting his website about once a week and reading his very day journal entries, i find myself drawn into his thinkings and thoughts. I thought that maybe i should write one myself. However, i was a bit hesitant. What if a stranger wants to take advantage of me and through my postings, he/she will gain an edge over me. What if this, what if that.
Yet today, as i was getting frustrated at work and i was looking for someone to chat with online, i didnt' find anyone, but instead i found little stars beside some of my friend's name. I was puzzled at first but then i remembered what they were. They were new posts by my friends online and i remembered most of them are pictures. I clicked on a few of them and they contain pictures of trips and other events. And for one of my closer friend since 1st year university, i found out that she has been posting since december 2004. I was surprised to say the least due to what i understood of her. I only saw a few postings and i was saying to myself, okay that's it, no more this and no more that. Just do it. Sometimes, too much consideration is very bad.
So for my very post i will like to share something that i have asked one of my friend:
1) Life is full of contradictions and uncertainities. We can only hope that the path we are now walking is a path that we won't regret later on in life.
2) Life is full of surprises and amusement. As long as we work hard and always try our best, there i nothing to fear or regret about. The only regret might be whether if we had fun or not doing it.
3) Life is about accomplishing your goals. The goals in our life should be set very high so that we can continuously strive to better ourselves.
Which one of these are u? Think about it. There is no answer, just thoughts.
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